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 Validation Addiction — मान्यतेचं व्यसन

तीने नवीन साडी घातली.

फोटो काढला. स्टेटस टाकलं.

दर ५ मिनिटांनी फोन उघडून बघते..

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त्याने नवीन प्रोजेक्ट पूर्ण केला.

घरी येऊन शांत बसला.

पण ऑफिसमध्ये कोणी “well done” म्हटलं नाही म्हणून रात्रभर त्याचा mood off.

लहान मुलगा चित्र काढतो.

आई म्हणते, “छान आहे.”

तो लगेच विचारतो — “खरंच? की फक्त बोलतेस?”

ही सगळी एकच गोष्ट आहे —

Validation Addiction.

Validation म्हणजे काय?

इतरांनी आपल्याला मान्यता देणं.

आपण चांगले आहोत, सुंदर आहोत, यशस्वी आहोत —

हे बाहेरून ऐकायची गरज.

मान्यता हवी असणं नैसर्गिक आहे.

पण जेव्हा आपली किंमत फक्त वारंवार  इतरांच्या शब्दांवर अवलंबून होते —

तेव्हा ती सवय व्यसन बनते.

आजची पिढी दुखावलेली नाही…

ती approval वर जगायला शिकली आहे.

Like कमी आले तर mood off.

Partner ने appreciate केलं नाही तर insecurity.

Boss ने कौतुक केलं नाही तर self-doubt.

आपण इतके बाहेरच्या टाळ्यांवर अवलंबून झालो आहोत

की आतला आवाज ऐकणं विसरलो आहोत.

Validation Addiction ची मोठी समस्या काय?

ती आपल्याला कायम भुकेलं ठेवते.

आज १० लोकांनी कौतुक केलं तर छान वाटतं.

उद्या ८ लोकांनी केलं तर कमी वाटतं.

परवा ५ लोकांनी केलं तर दुःख होतं.

कारण व्यसन वाढत जातं.

मानसिक आरोग्यासाठी सर्वात धोकादायक गोष्ट म्हणजे —

स्वतःची किंमत दुसऱ्यांच्या प्रतिक्रियेत शोधणं.

जर तुमचा आत्मविश्वास

like, comment, appreciation, promotion

यावर उभा असेल —

तर तो कायम हलणार.

खरी ताकद कुठे आहे?

Self-validation मध्ये.

स्वतःला विचारणं —

मी माझ्या मूल्यांनुसार वागलो का?

मी माझ्या परीने प्रामाणिक प्रयत्न केला का?

मी स्वतःच्या नजरेत ठीक आहे का?

जर उत्तर “हो” असेल,

तर बाहेरचं कौतुक बोनस आहे…

गरज नाही.

Validation Addiction मध्ये माणूस लोकांना खूश ठेवतो.

Self-respect मध्ये माणूस स्वतःशी प्रामाणिक राहतो.

आज depression चं एक मोठं मूळ म्हणजे

आपण स्वतःला स्वतः मान्यता देत नाही.

आपण स्वतःला टाळ्या देत नाही.

आपण स्वतःला “मी पुरेसा आहे” असं म्हणत नाही.

लक्षात ठेवा —

जगाचं approval बदलत राहील.

तुमची किंमत बदलत नाही.

मनाची मोठी सवय म्हणजे —

टाळ्यांची वाट पाहू नका…

स्वतःला शांतपणे मान्यता द्या.

कारण जेव्हा आत्मसन्मान आतून उभा राहतो,

तेव्हा बाहेरच्या टाळ्या फक्त आवाज असतात !! 

Dharavahik crime thriller (262)Apradh !!

Listening Nirmal’s statement all Shukla’s got shuddered, They were shocked, how did Nirmal know that her sisters work like servants. Might because there is no servant in the house, but there was no servant before their arrival too. Janki Devi was doing all the works on her own. The girls were also habitual of doing household works at their parents house then what is bad in it to do household works at their husband’s house. No one spoke for two minutes. Nirmal made the atmosphere light by saying, “ It is said in Hindu culture that after Kanyadan, daughters family members must not even drink water at their house. But look at me I am having lunch here. No body laughed or commented on his statement and Nirmal felt shy. After lunch Somesh Gaur and Nirmal got up and took leave by saying that he had to catch the train. Both the sisters hugged again with tears in eyes. Nirmal said ,” This is your home now, respect your elders and property take care of your husbands. “ he was covering up his previous statements. But everything was now useless.———- Continued ——

Dharavahik crime thriller ( 261)Apradh !!

She was surprised to see her elder brother, she hugged him and till that time Usha also came there and she also hugged Nirmal. Both the girls were dropping tears from their eyes without any words. Brajesh Shukla called his wife Janki Devi , she was shocked to see Nirmal but immediately changed her expression and welcomed him. Brajesh Shukla said , “ I think lunch is ready so come let’s have lunch. They entered in he dining room.There was a big dining table with twelve chairs. A coloured tv kept on the corner and a fridge in another corner. All these things were bought last time and paid by Nirmal. Nirmal and Somesh Gaur sat on two of the chairs. Janki Devi herself started serving. It was simple food but she had sent the neighbourhood boy to buy thick milk sweet ( Rabdi ) . Today Nirmal was strong. He said to Amita and Usha “ Why don’t you call us ? You have telephone in your home. Mummy feels worried about both of you.It’s your home now and you have right to call us and talk to us. You are not servants here, properly got married with two sons of this house.” He then laughed loudly to make the atmosphere light. He already had done what ever he wanted to do.——- Continued———

Dharavahik crime thriller (260)Apradh!!

Somesh Gaur, Nirmal and both the son in law’s were ready to go and buy bikes when suddenly Brajesh Shukla got up from the cash counter and asked his assistant to take care he will be back in just half an hour. All of them caught two rickshaws and reached to the show room . The salesman welcomed them all and asked what did the want to by. Dharmendra told him about the latest model of bike recently launched. Devendra was also agreed. The salesman showed many bikes shining with different colours. After forty five minutes of discussion both of them selected two bikes. Nirmal and Somesh Gaur went to the cash counter and payed the large amount. The salesman said give me the add I will bring them filling petrol tank. Dharmendra gave his address and moved towards all. Brajesh Shukla asked both of them “ Are you happy now ? They nodded their heads.Brajesh Shukla didn’t ask Nirmal to come along and have food. But Nirmal himself said , “ I want to meet my sisters, I have come here to see them .” Brajesh Shukla couldn’t deny and then all of them suddenly reached Brajesh Shukla’s home. The door was opened by Amita , holding cooking spoon in her hand. ——— Continued——

Dharavahik crime thriller ( 259)Apradh !!

Parvati Devi packed his bag during free time. These days there are less customers on the shop so she had even more free time. Nirmal and Parvati Devi talked about the present situation. They thought , hopefully after fulfilling this demand Brajesh Shukla won’t demand anything. They didn’t know as much as they feed the Dowry domen his hunger will increase.Nirmal said , “ But Mummy my injections? “ “ You can continue after coming back , she said “ before One hour Nirmal got ready and came out to catch the rickshaw. He couldn’t sleep on his berth too because of the money he was holding and coughing was making him restless. He reached Jalandhar on time. Somesh Uncle was present there to receive him . Both of them went home. Nirmal got freshen up .After shower he felt a little good. Somesh uncle was not knowing about his Tuberculosis and he didn’t want him to know that. After having breakfast in a restaurant, both of them went to Brajesh Shukla’s shop as shops were opened that day.After formal wishing each other, Brajesh Shukla asked , “ So , what have you decided? Nirmal said We are ready to buy bikes for both Jitendra and Devendra. Brajesh Shukla becam very happy to hear that. He called both his sons and asked them to go with Nirmal to Motorcycle show room. Both of them looked each other and smiled. ———- Continued ——- 

Amazing !!

 *Very interesting & meaningful msg to share:*

*If:* 

A = 1 ; 

B = 2 ; 

C = 3 ; 

D = 4 ;

E = 5 ; 

F = 6 ; 

G = 7 ; 

H = 8 ;

I = 9 ; 

J = 10 ; 

K = 11 ; 

L =12 ;

M = 13 ; 

N = 14 ; 

O = 15 ; 

P = 16 ;

Q = 17 ; 

R = 18 ; 

S = 19 ; 

T = 20 ;

U = 21 ; 

V = 22 ; 

W = 23; 

X =24 ;

Y = 25 ; 

Z = 26.;

*Then,*

L+O+V+E*

= 12+15+22+5 

*= 54%*

L+U+C+K ;*

=12+21+3+11 

*= 47%*

*H+A+R+D+W+O+R+K* 

=8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11

*= 98%*

*K+N+O+W+L+E+D+G+E*

=11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5

*=96%*

*None of them makes 100%.*

*Then what makes 100%?*

Is it Money?*

.*NO!*

M+O+N+E+Y*

= 13+15+14+5+25

*=72%*

Leadership?*

.NO!*

L+E+A+D+E+R+S+H+I+P*

=12+5+1+4+5+18+19+8+9+16

*=97%*

*Every problem has a solution, only if we perhaps change our*

  *"ATTITUDE"...*

*A+T+T+I+T+U+D+E ;*

1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 

*= 100%*

It is therefore OUR ATTITUDE towards Life*and Work that makes*OUR Life 100% Successful.*

*Amazing mathematics*

 With each alphabet getting a number, in chronological order, as above, study the* *following, and bring down the total to a single digit and see the result yourself*

Hindu -*

*S  h  r  e  e   K  r  i  s  h  n  a*

19+8+18+5+5+11+18+9+19+8+14+1

=135

*=1+3+5 = 9*

*Muslim*

*M  o  h  a  m  m  e  d*

13+15+8+1+13+13+5+4

= 72

*= 7+2 = 9*

*Jain*

*M a  h a v  i  r*

13+1+8+1+22+9+18

  =72

*= 7+2= 9*

*Sikh*

*G  u  r  u   N  a  n  a  k*

7+21+18+21+14+1+14+1+11 

=108 

*=1+0+8 = 9*

Parsi*

*Z  a  r  a  t  h  u  s  t  r a*

26+1+18+1+20+8+21+19+20+18+1

=153

*=1+5+3 = 9*

Buddhist*

*G  a   u  t  a  m*

7+1+21+20+1+13

=63

*= 6+3 = 9*

Christian*

*E  s   a  M  e  s  s  i   a  h*

5+19+1+13+5+19+19+9+1+8

=99

9+9=18

*1+8 = 9*

Each one ends with number  9*

*THAT IS NATURE'S CREATION TO SHOW THAT GOD IS ONE !!!*

*who ever created this msg's great.....* *msg*

Laughter !! ( Marathi)

 *थोडं हसुया !! 

 *काही अतिसुंदर (?) विचार* 

1: अंगात दम असणं चांगलं,

पण तो *सारखा लागणं* अत्यंत वाईट

2: तारुण्यात न घसरलेला पाय उतारवयात नक्की घसरतो...

 *बाथरूममध्ये......!*

3: कुणी उशिरापर्यंत झोपलेलं मी बघूच शकत नाही,

म्हणून *मीच रोज उशिरा* उठतो....

4:  भांडण करताना ते विकोपाला जाणार नसेल तर ते करण्यात *काहीच अर्थ* नाही....

5:  मराठी माणसांनी मराठीतूनच *"कॉन्व्हरसेशन"* केले पाहिजे....

6: स्वर्गात जायचे असेल तर आईचे पाय दाबून झोपत जा.. मग ती आई तुमची असो वा *तुमच्या पोरांची....*

7: काही लोक खरेदीला गेल्यावर कधीच डिस्काउंट मागत नाहीत. फक्त दुकानातून *बाहेर जायची ॲक्टिंग* करतात.

8: रडल्यानंतर मन मोकळं होवो ना होवो पण.. *नाक मात्र नक्की मोकळं* होत..

9:  तुम्ही कितीही महागातली सुपरफास्ट बाईक मुलांना घेऊन दिली तरी.. ती *ॲक्टिवाच्या मागेच* चालणार..

10: कुंडली  खरं तर सासू अन् सुनेची जुळली पाहिजे. मुलगा  बिचारा कुणाशीही *Adjust* करून घेतो..

11: लग्नात मुलीचे मामा अन् नवरी सोबत असलेली करवली.. या दोघांच्या *attitude ची बरोबरी* कोणीच करू शकत नाही..

12: जिथे मारामारी करणं शक्य नाही.. तिथे *टोमणे* तरी मारूनच यायचं.. सोडायचं नाही अजिबात..

13: पोट आणि Ego कमी असेल तर.. माणूस कोणालाही *मिठी मारू* शकतो.. 

14: गाढ झोपेत काहीच ऐकू न येणाऱ्या लोकांना.. *"तिकडे सरक"* हा शब्द कसा काय ऐकू जातो..? 

15: जर तुम्हाला तुमचं घर लहान वाटत असेल.. तर एखाद्या दिवशी *फरशी पुसून बघा..*