Dharavahik upanyas Bhoot-Adbhut! ( 109)

She slept as after the flight she was continuously active, early in the morning at six o’clock she heard knocking on her door. She opened the door. The same nurse ( nurses are males and females both found in U.K.) was standing there. before Samantha could ask anything, she said, “ Your Dad is no more God knows which time he died during sleep.” Samantha immediately moved her away and ran to Dad’s bed , he was still looking like sleeping a calm and contented sleep.The nurse said, “ Funeral will be done at eleven o’clock at the cemetery, The expanse will be done by the Nursing home., and now when you are here Please you go to the church ( which is in front of our nursing home ) You request the Priest invite him for doing the rituals of the funeral at the cemetery.till that we will get the coffin ready “ Samantha agreed and stood up she immediately left for the church. She just crossed the road and reached there” The priest was very nice he consoled her and said I will be there at the nursing home sharp at ten thirty. “ Samantha asked “ Shall I need to pay for this ? The Priest said , “ No there is no fees for that but you can do donations in the donation box according to your wish” Samantha said “ Okay! And came back. ———- Continued——

Pure Gold !!

 1. Life is like camera just focus on what’s important capture the good times develop from the negatives and if things don’t workout, take another shot.

2. Courage does mean that you don’t get afraid courage means you don’t let fear stop you.

3. To be happy let’s go what’s gone be grateful for what remains and look forward to what is coming next.

4. A lamp doesn’t speak it introduces through its light Achievers never expose themselves but their achievements expose them.

5.Always remember that your present situation is not your final destination the best is yet to come. 

6.if we judge people nobody is ours if we understand people everyone is ours.

7. Time decided who you meet in your life,heart decided who you want in your life, behaviour decides who will stay in your life. 

8.Some steps need to be taken alone it’s only way to really figure out where you need to go and who you need to be. 

9.All the knowledge and inspiration in the world won’t help you until you are truly ready to help yourself. 

10. Talk to someone who makes you happy but never miss to talk to someone who feels happy to talk to you. 

11.Life is like making tea boil your ego evaporate your worries dilute your sorrows filter your mistakes. 

12. Eyes are useless when the mind is blind.

13. Health and good friends are two things become more valuable the older we get. 

14. When you are pure soul you do not lose people people lose you.

15. You will be the most successful person in your life if you follow all the advices that you give to others.

16. You can’t change how people think about you so don’t try just live your life happily.

17. Strong people always have their life in order. Even with tears in their eyes they manage to say “ I am okay with smile”

18.The one who knows how to adjust is the one who knows how to survive.

19.You can’t change how people think about you, so don’t try , live happily .

20.The real growth is when you start correcting yourself instead of blaming others. 

21.Soft nature of a person is not his weakness Remember nothing is softer than water but it’s force break strongest of rocks. 

22.Winning your goal is not the toughest victory but winning your patience to achieve that goal is the mst toughest it.

23.Trusted hands are rare always try to hold forever.

24.Always have a hope of positive happenings as the proverb says keep a green tree in your heart the singing bird will surely come.

25.Everything comes with expiry date even the bad time.

26.In a world of full copies be an original.

27.Good relations never earn profit but always make you rich.

28.Never let your feelings get to deep people can change any time.

29.As you grow you change as you change you grow 

Dharavahik upanyas Bhoot-Adbhut!(108)

 Samantha was sitting there for long time. She was holding her Dad’s hand. Meanwhile nurse came with his breakfast, Samantha requested her to let her feed . Nurse gave her the plate and helped David to be seated. Samantha started feeding her Daddy Nurse had gone. Samantha was talking to David. She was talking about the childhood memories and asking David , “ Do you remember Daddy ? He was not answering. After fifteen minutes nurse came and  after cleaning took the plate back. Samantha asked her “ Can she buy something to eat from their kitchen because they give only breakfast. Nurse said ,” Yes You can buy sandwich for 50 P. Only. She then asked , “ Can I bring one sandwich for you ? Ya ! Ya ! Sure , Samagave her 50 P from her handbag. David was still in sitting position, Samantha requested nurse to let him be in the sitting position for sometime.Nurse nodded and went to buy sandwich for her.” Dad don’t you remember me ? I am your little doll Samantha. “ Samantha was talking to him while eating her sandwich. “ Nurse again came and said ,” Now he must lay down, she gave a pill to him and helped him laying down. “ After ten minutes he slept. “ Samantha was also feeling tired and wanted to sleep “ She went in her room and slept.” ———Continued——- 

Dharavahik upanyas Bhoot-Adbhut ( 107)

She was Miss Stela she was a middle age lady equal to Samantha. She told Samantha “ We provide here bed and breakfast for the family members come to see their near and dear ones but it is chargeable. You will have to pay ten pounds a day for that. Samantha thought she will completely empty if she lives for more than five days. She didn’t reply and deposited twenty pounds for two days. Miss Steka gave her the receipt and took her to the room left side of the corridor. Samantha picked up her luggage and went with her. It was a small room but not bad. When Stela wanted to leave Samantha asked I can sit near my father any time ? She said “ Yes you can go and sit there but what would you do ? He is a patient of Alzaimars he won’t recognise you , as he is very old , last week he had have a mild heart attack so we informed you. “ Samantha was feeling very sad. Stela already had gone. Samantha freshen up and had a shower, then she again went to father’s bed. He was awake he looked at Samantha, Samantha hugged him and said “ Dad ! I am Samantha your daughter! Don’t you remember me ? But her father Mr.David Jones was looking at her at first expression then trying to recognise. ——- Continued ——-

Carl Jung : Loners after sixty !!

 The psychology of a man after sixty , is the society looks at it’s weekends and thinks that he is depressed,they look at his empty driveway and assume that he has surrendered to loneliness but the Psychology reveals to a shocking hidden truth, he is not hiding from the world ,he is simply conquered it.We live in an extroverted culture,that equates with constant motion with happiness,We are told to be that successful,A man must always be outside mingling travelling and proving his vitality to the to the crowd when a family sees a senior man over sixty prefers the four walls of his home to the notice of the outside world,they often try to fix him try to pull him out of his shell ,but they fail to understand that he is not in the shell he is in sanctuary after decades of navigating of labyrinth of career pressures suicidal expectations and complex relationships,the mature masculine mind undergoes a profound,a psychological transformation his desire to stay home is not a symptom of mental decline it is the ultimate expression of emotional mastery,today we are going to deconstruct,the psychology of the sovereign homebody,we will dissect the undeniable reasons why senior men live staying home ,and why this voluntary solitude is the purest form of freedom let us uncover the truth.

1. Voluntary solitude is the sign of emotional wholeness not depression. 

2. When a man is young ,he often uses the world as a distraction.he works 80 hours a week,attends every social gathering and constantly seek new experiences because he is terrifying of Branford alone with his own thoughts,he is running from his insecurities, his unheaded traumas and his own internal voices. But the senior man could sit completely alone in a quiet room for hours on end without feeling a single ounce of anxiety that is a man who has reached a pinnacle of emotional completion, he has done the brutal silent work of introspection he has confronted his past he had looked at his failures and triumphs he has finally forgiven himself for his imperfections , he no longer escape his own mind because his mind is no longer a battlefield when society looks at a man sitting quietly in his house they assume he is depressed because they would be depressed if they were forced to sit with their own unresolved thoughts.They are projecting their own fear of silence onto him ,the older man stays at home simply because he is finally at peace with the man in the mirror .

2. He is withdrawing from the noise not from life there is a severe difference between retreating from existence and retreating from superficiality throughout his life a man is forced to attend thousands of events he does not care about he attends corporate dinners ,Mandatory family gatherings with toxic relatives.and social functions,built entirely on fake pleasantries .by the time a man reaches age sixty his tolerance for trivial completely evaporates in Psychology this is known as shift socio emotional selectivity as men recognise that their time is limited they refuse to spend their remaining energy on shallow interactions he is not isolating himself from humanity he is retiring from the exhausting performance of societal small talk he realises that spending an evening answering mundane questions about the weather or listening to other people’s manufactured drama it is catastrophic waste of his life force , he stays home because he has discovered that honest silence is infinitely more fulfilling than fake conversation he protects his environment because he would rather experience the deep authentic peace of his living room than the exhausting theater of the outside world .

3.Absolute independence and liberation from societal roles ,from the moment a man enters the workforce he is stripped of his individuality and assigned a series of utilitarian roles he is the employee who must produce he is the provider who must pay the mortgage he is the fixer who must solve everyone’s problems he is the stoic husband and father who must never show weakness for 40 years every time he steps out his front doors , he must put on this heavy suffocating armour to survive in the world but his home his home is the only place on the earth where the armpit comes off when the senior man retires and his children are grown the societal contracts expire when he stays inside his house he does not have to perform he does not have to prove his strength he does not have to prove his success his wealth or his utility to anyone he can simply be returns to his most authentic primal self the older man lives staying home because it is the only geographical location where he is allowed to exist as a human being rather n a human doing he rejects the outside world because the outside world is continuously demands that he play a role inside his home he is finally unapologetically just himself .

4. The home provides a sacred space for deep reflection and spiritual grounding as a man enters his later years the biological drive for external  expansion shifts to a profound desire for internal exploration Carl Jung referred to this as final stage of individualisation , it is the existential phase of life the hustle of the outside world the traffic the consumerism the endless pursuit of money is designed to keep us distracted from the ultimate questions of existence the quiet  environmental of the home allows the senior man to finally pause and meditate on his journey in this secret silence he evaluates his achievements and his failures without the judgment of the society he begins to answer the grand terrifying question that young man run from .

Who am I really beneath my titles what actually matters in my life what legacy I am leaving behind this level of deep introspection requires an environment completely devoid for distraction the older man stays home because his house has become monastery for his mind he is making peace with the universe preparing his soul for the final chapters of his journey and he requires absolute stillness to do so.

5. The renaissance of pure unadulterated creativity society looks at a senior man tinkering in his garage or attending to his garden and dismissively assumes he is just killing time.They view his hobbies as a desperate attempt to stave off boredom they could not be more wrong during his working years a man’s creative energy is routinely hijacked by his employer his mental resources are spent solving problems for other people but within the walls of his home ,he reclaims his creative sovereignty reading writing woodworking painting or gardening are not just ways to pass the hours they are dynamic moving meditations they are the tools he uses to organise his thoughts and manifest his inner peace into the physical world he creates not for profit not for praise and not for social validation he creates purely for the Joy of creation itself his home is his laboratory his studio and his canvas he loves staying home because it is the only place where his imagination is entirely his own 

6. Absolute control and the enforcement of the unbreakable boundaries when you step out into the world you surrender control of your environment you are forced to deal with erratic drivers rude individuals unpredictable crowds and chaotic environment you are a subject to the whims of the society but a man’s home is in his sovereign territory it is the one geographical location on earth where he possesses absolute dictatorial control over who enters his life and what consumes his energy the senior man fiercely protects this space he controls the temperature he controls the environment but most importantly he controls the energetic environment if a person brings drama entitlement or negativity they are simply not granted access he lives staying home.because it guarantees that his nerves system remains perfectly regulated his house is a fortress that protects his most valuable asset his peace of mind 

7. The mastery of the difference between loneliness and solitude this is the ultimate misunderstanding of the modern world society believes that being physically alone automatically equals to be lonely but the senior man knows that loneliness is absolutely nothing to be proximity to others loneliness is the painful desperate feeling of being surrounded by people who do not see hear or understand it is state of emotional starvation but solitude?solitude is a confident deliberate choice it is the joy of peacefully sitting with yourself the older man stays at home because he has mastered his own company he realises that an empty room is not a void it is a sanctuary filled with his own peaceful presence he has conquered the fear of silence rendering him completely immune to the desperate need for external distraction it is time for society and well meaning families to stop pitying their man who stays at home don’t try to pull him out of his shell do not assume he is defeated he is not hiding from the world he is building his final calmest and most authentic version of himself after a lifetime of labour he has finally realised that the greatest happiness doesn’t exist out there in the noise of the world it exists right here in the quiet sanctuary of own home if you are a man who has discovered the profound joy of staying home what is your favourite part about the peace of your own sanctuary your wisdom will help guide the men who is still exhausted by the noise of the world .

Dharavahik upanyas Bhoot-Adbhut! (106)

The taxi crossed many roads and red lights, in ten years Samantha found many changes, the shops and the markets were shining brightly. The people walking on the roads were looking smart and rich. She thought , “ Just because I am back here after ten long years and that too from a village, I am feeling the big difference. “ The driver stopped the taxi , she saw they have reached Nursing home. She got down and took out her luggage, she paid the money to the driver, she had exchanged the ropes into Pounds at the airport. She saw the Ebro at the ground floor. She went in and introduced herself. The receptionist welcomed her formally. She took her inside, her father was at the ground floor. She asked Samantha to put the luggage there only, she can’t take the luggage inside.Samantha put the luggage down, She wanted to meet her father. The receptionist took her to a dormitory, there were five cots there. Her father’s was the last one. Receptionist said , “ he is your father” Samantha reached there she saw a lean and thin man was laying on the bed. In her imagination her father was a smart tall and healthy man but after ten years she couldn’t recognise him. She sat on the stool kept near the cot. Receptionist put finger on lip and asked Samantha to keep silent because the patient is sleeping. Receptionist asked Samantha to come out with her. Samantha followed her. ———— Continued————

Dharm & Darshan!! Vithhal Rakhumai !! ( Marathi)

 *रखुमाई रूसली कोपऱ्यात बसली चला जाऊ तिला पुसायला*

"उद्या तुम्ही कुठे म्हणजे कुठे जाणार नाही.. नेहमी तुम्ही दुसर्‍यांची सेवा घेता.. उद्याचा दिवस माझा.. कळले ना?" *रुक्मिणीने* ठणकावून विठ्ठलाला सांगितले..

" हो ग.. मी का तुझ्या शब्दाबाहेर आहे.. तू म्हणशील तसे.." *विठूरायाने* मान डोलावली..

रामप्रहरी विठुरायाच्या कानी आवाज आला.. *दळिता कांडिता तुज गाईन अनंता*..' त्याने डोळे उघडले.. शेजारी रखुमाई झोपली होती.. तो तसाच उठला आणि निघाला त्याच्या जनीकडे.. तिचे दळण दळून येईपर्यंत इथे रखुमाईने गरम पाणी काढून ठेवले होते..

 *आलात दळण दळून.. बसा अंग चोळून देते*.. स्नान झाल्यावर खायला देते तोवर तरी थांबा.." विठुरायाने परत होकार भरला..

 *मागणे हेचि माझे देवा, दुजेपणा दुरी ठेवा, मी तू ऐसी नको उरी, जनार्दनकृपा करी*.." रखुमाई आत गेली आहे तोवर याने लगेच *श्रीखंड्याचे रूप घेऊन नाथांच्या घरची वाट धरली.. तिथे पाणी भरून होईतो. *नको देवराया अंत आता पाहू, प्राण हा सर्वथा जावो पाहे*..

" ती आर्त हाक ऐकून त्याचे पाय वळले कान्होपात्रेकडे.. तिला दिलासा देऊन घाबरत विठुराया आले घरी.. समोर रखुमाई थालीपीठ आणि त्यावर लोण्याचा गोळा घेऊन उभीच होती.. 

" आता हे तरी शांतपणे खाणार कि अजून कुठे जायची घाई आहे?"

" मी कुठे जाणार तुला सोडून? बाकी थालीपीठ उत्तम झाले आहे ग.."

" हो ना.. मग आता दुपारी काय खाणार ते सांगा.."

" दुपारी भाजी भाकरी कर छान.. मी तर म्हणतो तो सावता कधीचा बोलावतो आहे तर एकदा त्याच्या मळ्यात जाऊन येऊ दोघे.."

" मी नाही येत. जा तुम्हीच.." चिडून रखुमाई बोलली.. पडत्या फळाची आज्ञा घेऊन विठुराया निघाला.. *कांदा मुळा भाजी.. अवघी विठाई माझी*.." सावताच्या मळ्यातील थोडी ताजी भाजी रखुमाईचा राग कमी व्हावा म्हणून घेतली.. तोच एका बाळाच्या रडण्याचा आवाज आला..

*केशवाचे ध्यान धरूनी अंतरी मृत्तिके माझारी नाचतसे* " *असे म्हणत बाळाला तुडवणारा गोरा कुंभार दिसला*.. त्या बाळाला वाचवून त्याला त्याच्या हवाली करण्याच्या गोंधळात भाजी कुठेतरी राहून गेली.. तसेच मातीने भरलेले कपडे घेऊन तो पंढरपुरी परतला.. पण आज रखुमाईने भांडायचे नाही असे ठरवले होते ना.. "कपडे बदलून या.. तोपर्यंत भाकर्‍या करायला घेते.." तिने गरम भाकर्‍या करायला घेतल्या.. पण त्या काही त्याच्या घशाखाली उतरेना. *तुपाची वाटी आणि नेवैद्य घेऊन उभा असलेला नामदेव सतत त्याच्या डोळ्यासमोर येऊ लागला*.

. आपण नेवैद्य ग्रहण करेपर्यंत तो काही खाणार नाही.. हा विचार पिछा सोडेना.. रखुमाईला भाकरी वाढ सांगून विठुराया आला नामदेवांनी.. तो म्हणतच होता "*तरी वेणुनादी जेवण करा गोडु*.." त्याच्या नेवैद्याचा घास घेऊन निघाला तर 

*देहूला उन्हात "वृक्षवल्ली आम्हा सोयरी वनचरी" असे गात असलेला तुकाराम दिसला*.. त्याच्या डोक्यावर सावली धरली.. आणि शेवटी घरी परतला..

" थकला असाल.. जरा दम घ्या." असे रखुमाईने सांगितले.. तिच्याकडे कृतज्ञतापूर्वक पाहून तो जरा कलंडला.. संध्याकाळी उठला.. "चल आपण दोघे सारीपाट खेळू.." त्याने रखुमाईला सांगितले..

"बघा हां, आपण खेळायला बसू.. आणि परत तुम्हाला काहीतरी आठवेल.. मग मात्र मी चिडून इथून निघून जाईन.." त्या पेक्षा आपण या सर्व तुमच्या भक्त मंडळीच्या मांदीयाळी पासून कुठे तरी दूर जाऊ,

*पंढरीनाथा झडाकरी आता, पंढरी सोडून चला विनविते रखुमाई विठ्ठला* 

तेव्हा विठ्ठल म्हणाले आता असे 

" नाही असे होणार.." त्याने हसून तिची खात्री पटवली.. त्याच्या मोहक हास्याच्या जाळ्यात तीही अडकली..

खेळ रंगात आला.. आणि *विश्वाचे आर्त माझ्यामनी प्रकटले.." अशी साद आली.. त्या चार भावंडांकडे कसे दुर्लक्ष करणार*.. डाव अर्धवट सोडून तो निघाला.. त्यांच्या पाठीवरून मायेचा हात फिरवायला.. त्या चार भावंडांना भेटून विठुराया आला खरा.. पण तोवर त्याची रखुमाई चिडून खरेच निघून गेली होती.. हि गोष्ट सर्व संतांना समजली. सर्वांनी येऊन तिची मनधरणी केली.. "*तुझ्याविना वैकुंठाचा कारभार चालना.. एकल्या विठुरायाला संसार पेलेवेना**.. असे म्हणून सर्व संत मंडळी रखुमाई कडे गेली, पण ती हि एवढी हट्टी.. ती ऐकेचना.. शेवटी ती त्याच्यापासून वेगळी झालीच.. 

*रखुमाई रुसली कोपऱ्यात बसली चला जाऊ तिला पुसायला*

आता गेली अठ्ठावीस युगे तो विठुराया तिची विनवणी करतो आहे.. *येग येग रखुमाई, सावलीच्या पावलांनी विठूच्या गाभारी*.."   *रामकृष्ण हरी पांडुरंग हरी*