Dharm & Darshan : Mahabharat se Shiksha !!

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*खरंच कधी कधी मला असं वाटतं..*

 *महाभारतातून....*

*शिकायचं काय.....?*

नातेसंबंध खूप महत्वाचे आयुष्यात...

महाभारत संपलं. युद्ध संपलं. शंख शांत झाले. रथ थांबले. धुळ खाली बसली....!

पण एक प्रश्न अजूनही हवेत तरंगत राहिला...!

हे सगळं नेमकं कशासाठी घडलं?

राज्यासाठी? 

सत्तेसाठी? 

अहंकारासाठी? 

की नात्यांसाठी?

 जितकं महाभारत वाचत जातो, तितकं जाणवतं की महाभारत हे युद्धाचं पुस्तक नाही; ते नात्यांचं *शवविच्छेदन* आहे. 

प्रत्येक नातं फक्त उघडून दाखवत नाही तर ते आपल्याला विचारत राहतं...

तुम्ही खरंच एकमेकांवर प्रेम करत होतात का, की फक्त एकमेकांचा उपयोग करत होतात?

धृतराष्ट्राने दुर्योधनावर प्रेम केलं, पण त्या प्रेमात न्याय नव्हता. जिथे न्याय मरतो, तिथे प्रेमही फार काळ जिवंत राहत नाही.

 गांधारीने पतीच्या दुःखात सहभागी होण्यासाठी डोळ्यांवर पट्टी बांधली; पण मुलाच्या चुकीवरही तीच पट्टी कायम राहिली. कधी कधी अति निष्ठाही नातं वाचवू शकत नाही.

भीष्मांनी वचन जपलं, पण त्या एका वचनासाठी कित्येक आयुष्यांचं सुख गमावलं. नात्यांमध्ये शब्द पाळण्यापेक्षा माणूस जपणं अधिक महत्त्वाचं असतं.

द्रोणांनी अर्जुनावर प्रेम केलं, पण एकलव्याला नाकारलं. पक्षपात हा गुरूलाही लहान करून टाकतो. 

कर्णाला आयुष्यभर प्रेम हवं होतं, स्वीकार हवा होता. जिथे माणसाला स्वीकार मिळत नाही, तिथे तो चुकीच्या माणसाशीही आयुष्यभर नातं जोडतो. दुर्योधनाने कर्णाला मान दिला, म्हणून कर्ण शेवटपर्यंत त्याच्यासोबत उभा राहिला. माणूस उपकारापेक्षा स्विकाराचा जास्त ऋणी असतो.

 द्रौपदीच्या अपमानाच्या वेळी सभेत अनेक नाती बसली होती. पितामह होते, गुरू होते, राजे होते, ज्येष्ठ होते; पण कोणीच उभं राहिलं नाही. त्यादिवशी समजलं की नातं म्हणजे रक्ताचं नसतं. अन्यायाच्या वेळी जो तुमच्या बाजूला उभा राहतो, तोच आपला असतो.

 कुंतीने सत्य लपवलं आणि त्या एका सत्याच्या ओझ्याखाली कर्ण आणि अर्जुन दोघांचं आयुष्य भरडलं. नात्यांमध्ये उशिरा सांगितलेलं सत्य कधी कधी छोट्यापेक्षाही जास्त वेदना देतं.

अभिमन्यूला चक्रव्यूहात सगळ्यांनी मिळून मारलं. कारण एकटा माणूस कितीही मजबूत असला तरी तुटू शकतो. नात्यांची खरी परीक्षा एखादा माणूस एकटा पडला की सुरू होते. 

*कृष्ण सगळ्यांचा होता, पण कोणाच्याही मालकीचा नव्हता. त्याने शिकवलं की नात्यात साथ द्यायची असते, स्वातंत्र्य हिरावून घ्यायचं नसतं.*

*तो अर्जुनाचा मित्र होता; पण त्याच्यासाठी युद्ध लढला नाही. फक्त योग्य मार्ग दाखवला.*

*खरं नातं तुमच्यासाठी निर्णय घेत नाही, तर तुम्हाला योग्य निर्णय घेण्याइतकं सक्षम करतं.*

*विदुराने सत्य सांगितलं, पण कोणी ऐकलं नाही. नात्यांमध्ये सत्य बोलणारा माणूस अनेकदा एकटा पडतो; पण शेवटी तोच सर्वात स्वच्छ राहतो.*

महाभारतात जवळजवळ प्रत्येक नातं तुटलं—वडील आणि मुलगा, भाऊ आणि भाऊ, गुरू आणि शिष्य, आई आणि मुलगा, पती आणि पत्नी, मित्र आणि मित्र. पण ही तुटलेली नाती आजही आपल्याला नाती कशी जपायची हे शिकवतात.

कारण प्रेम पुरेसं नसतं. विश्वास लागतो. 

विश्वास पुरासा नसतो. प्रामाणिकपणा लागतो. प्रामाणिकपणा पुरेसा नसतो. योग्य वेळी योग्य गोष्ट करण्याचं धैर्य लागतं. 

महाभारत सांगतं की नातं टिकवण्यासाठी नेहमी जिंकावंच लागत नाही. 

कधी स्वतःचा अहंकार हरवावा लागतो. 

कधी स्वतःचं म्हणणं सोडावं लागतं. 

कधी माफी मागावी लागते. आणि कधी... माफही करावं लागतं.

शेवटी महाभारताने एवढंच शिकवलं की रक्ताची नाती जन्म देतात; पण मनाची नाती आयुष्य देतात.

 

*ज्याला तुमच्या यशापेक्षा तुमचा अश्रू महत्त्वाचा वाटतो,*

*ज्याला तुमच्या पैशापेक्षा तुमचा हात महत्त्वाचा वाटतो,*

*ज्याला तुमच्या पदापेक्षा तुमचं मन महत्त्वाचं वाटतं,*

*त्यालाच जपा.*

कारण महाभारत संपलं, राज्य मिळालं, विजयही मिळाला; पण जे हरवलं, ते पुन्हा कोणालाच कधीच मिळालं नाही.

म्हणून शेवटी महाभारत युद्ध जिंकण्याची कथा नाही. ती नाती हरवू नयेत म्हणून वेळेत माणूस होण्याची कथा आहे.

*जय श्री. कृष्ण 

Dharavahik upanyas Bhoot-Adbhut!(125)

The court already had given them the date which they received by post on Shalin’s address, Next Wednesday they will have to reach before marriage registrar’s office with two witnesses, Samantha informed church’s office for one and half hour’s leave. The second witness was Dr. Saxena , he was happily agreed. Exactly at eleven o’clock all of them reached to the Registrar’s office. The marriage registrar asked a couple of questions, both of them were matured adults so they were asked to sign in the marriage register. Both the witnesses also signed there. The clerk typed a certificate of marriage and handed it over to them after taking signatures. Both of them brought two flower garlands too they exchanged garlands. Kalyan Singh opens the sweets box and distributed to all. It was the most happy moment for the couple. Everyone went to their own works there, except Kalyan Singh and Shalini they were on leave that day. They first went to the jail and touched Chandan Chaudhary’s feet. Chandan Singh started sobbing, Kalyan Singh asked him to calm down, he gave a sweet box there to distribute among all .Then they came to the hospital and touched Kamini Devi’s feet, she was expression less. Vasanti and Deenu also reached there and congratulated them Kalyan Singh gave him two boxes of sweets to distribute among all staff members. The newly wedded couple already had plan to go and see movie in the Cinema hall. ——-Continued ———-

Dharavahik upanyas Bhoot-Adbhut!(124)

Both of them chalked out their marriage plans. At first they applied to the court that they are adults and want to get married and get the marriage legally registered. They went to Samantha who was just appointed as warden of a missionary school owned by the Church. They got the date after a week. Both of them were now going to become husband and wife so they shared their monitory status so that they could start their family life without any problem. They bought some a couple of new clothes. Kalyan Singh went to meet his father in jail and informed about his marriage with Shalini. Chandan Singh Chaudhary was as usual silent and didn’t speak anything. Kalyan Singh and Shalini went to Kamini Devi’s room too but her condition was worse than previous. All the people who were a part of Chandan Singh’s haveli now scattered here and there. It’s human nature, he struggles and accept challenges, face hard times but dedicatedly works hard stays strong and then he again makes a new life. Most of the times it’s better than his previous status. Kalyan Singh was the example of it ,  who lived a royal life was suddenly become alone , homeless and without family without job but he was strong and was walking strongly. ———-Continued ——

Dharavahik upanyas Bhoot-Adbhut!(123)

When one month was about to finish, Kalyan Singh got worried about residence. Shalini asked ,” What are you thinking?” Kalyan Singh said , “ No, nothing, I need to find a residence for myself. “ Shalini laughed loudly, she said “ You don’t need to go anywhere but you will have to do a different work ? What ? Asked Kalyan Singh “Marry me” she replied boldly “ Kalyan Singh opened his eyes wide. “ What ? “ Now she put her head slightly down like a shy girl, who suddenly realised that what she had spoken! But Kalyan Singh smiled with inner happiness. In last one month he had judged her. She was a good young girl and she will become a very good wife. Now in such situation, when his father was in jail and mother was in Asylum. He will have to take decisions on his own.He said, “ I am ready.” Now Shalini got surprised, looked up., Both looked at each other and agreed.” They then planned for a long time how to get married, and when to get married. At last they decided first to register the marriage in the court and then get married in the temple. Kalyan Singh decided to invite Samantha as elder. They were now looking differently to each other and calculating would it be a correct decision????———-Continued ———

Dharavahik upanyas Bhoot-Adbhut!(122)

Samantha made up her mind to go and live in the district place. She could get more batter options for earning there and live a good life too. She made up her mind and told this to the sister ( missionary head ) she didn’t like her decision because missionary had have a purpose right from the beginning to spread Christian religion and for that many of them stayed here even after India’s freedom and they were Anglo Indians.Samantha didn’t agree with her and said she will do religious works there in the Church. Sister didn’t force her. Samantha went to the District place twice more with Bheema , She met Shalini and Kalyan Singh She also met Dr. Saxena who was treating Kamini Devi . Samantha was hopeful that she will get the job soon .Samantha went to the Church and introduced her self her qualifications. Sister, was impressed and she assured her to find a job of teacher ship for her either in their own mission school or any other school. And soon a very good offer was came in front of Samantha, the warden of the girls hostel recently went to Kerala permanently and the post was vacant. Samantha was perfect for that and this way her residence problem was solved too. She shifted on Sunday, brought her luggage in Bheema’s taxi. She got transferred her post office account from there to here and now she thanked GOD that her all problems are solved together. She thought “ Humans worry but GOD already had have solutions for humans problems.———- Continued—-

Amazing!!

 *Interesting Insight*

My mom wanted to send me homemade pickles. *But I said NO.* 

I was 27, living in New York, working on Wall Street. I didn't need pickles shipped across the world. The shipping would cost more than buying them here.

Three years later, I read the psychologist take on what I'd actually done. 

*When you reject someone's offer to help, you're not just declining assistance. You're declining their need to matter to you!*

Benjamin Franklin figured this out in 1736. He had a rival in the Pennsylvania legislature who hated him. Instead of trying to win him over with favors, Franklin asked the rival to lend him a rare book.

The rival agreed. They became lifelong friends.

*It's called the Ben Franklin effect.* 

When people do something for you, they convince themselves they must like you. Otherwise, why would they help?

My mom didn't want to send pickles because I needed them.

She wanted to send them because SHE needed to feel useful to me. To feel like despite the ocean between us, she still had a role in my life.

Every time I said "I'll manage," I was taking that away from her.

Here's what I learned after a decade of living away from home: *→ Accepting small favors isn't about you needing help. It's about letting people you love feel needed.

Your dad wants to transfer ₹5000 even though you earn well?  

*Let him.*

Your friend wants to pick you up from the airport even though Uber exists? 

*Say yes.*

Your partner wants to make you tea even though you can make it yourself?

*Accept it.*

*The people who love you don't want to solve your big problems. They want to matter in your small moments. 

 *Let them* ……*

Dharavahik upanyas Bhoot/ Adbhut!(121)

Coincidentally when Samantha was returning to her home she saw Bheema’s taxi. He waved his hand. Samantha asked him to stop and said” I will come to the district place tomorrow I want to meet Chaudhary Ji and his wife . Bheema agreed . Now Samantha needs to think about her future. In this small village she didn’t have any scope of good job and good earning. Next morning at eight in the morning she got ready. Bheema took her to the Asylum first. Samantha was shocked and couldn’t believe that the lady who used to be so hospitable to her is now lost her senses thinking power, When Vasanti took her to Kamini Devi Kamini Devi didn’t recognise her. Kalyan Singh also reached at the same time, it was Sunday and it was holiday for him. He described everything what had happened there in his presence and how all of them ran from there. Samantha also said that she would like to do job here at District place as there is no scope in the village. Kalyan Singh took her to the jail to meet Chandan Singh Chaudhary. When he saw Samantha he felt ashamed and turned his face. Kalyan Singh while returning back introduced Samantha with Shalini Devi  Samantha felt happy,They by were planning to get married within a month, Kalyan Singh then will start living in her quarter. Kalyan Singh said he will search a job for her, she will have to visit here in couple of days. She said “ Yes I will come here on Wednesday and meet Shalini as it will be your working day. Bheema came there to take back Samantha. ———— Continued —-