Dharavahik upanyas Bhoot-Adbhut! ( 106)

She was Miss Stela she was a middle age lady equal to Samantha. She told Samantha “ We provide here bed and breakfast for the family members come to see their near and dear ones but it is chargeable. You will have to pay ten pounds a day for that. Samantha thought she will completely empty if she lives for more than five days. She didn’t reply and deposited twenty pounds for two days. Miss Steka gave her the receipt and took her to the room left side of the corridor. Samantha picked up her luggage and went with her. It was a small room but not bad. When Stela wanted to leave Samantha asked I can sit near my father any time ? She said “ Yes you can go and sit there but what would you do ? He is a patient of Alzaimars he won’t recognise you , as he is very old , last week he had have a mild heart attack so we informed you. “ Samantha was feeling very sad. Stela already had gone. Samantha freshen up and had a shower, then she again went to father’s bed. He was awake he looked at Samantha, Samantha hugged him and said “ Dad ! I am Samantha your daughter! Don’t you remember me ? But her father Mr.David Jones was looking at her at first expression then trying to recognise. ——- Continued ——-

Today’s tip !!( Carl Jung ) Loners after sixty !!

 The psychology of a man after sixty , is the society looks at it’s weekends and thinks that he is depressed,they look at his empty driveway and assume that he has surrendered to loneliness but the Psychology reveals to a shocking hidden truth, he is not hiding from the world ,he is simply conquered it.We live in an extroverted culture,that equates with constant motion with happiness,We are told to be that successful,A man must always be outside mingling travelling and proving his vitality to the to the crowd when a family sees a senior man over sixty prefers the four walls of his home to the notice of the outside world,they often try to fix him try to pull him out of his shell ,but they fail to understand that he is not in the shell he is in sanctuary after decades of navigating of labyrinth of career pressures suicidal expectations and complex relationships,the mature masculine mind undergoes a profound,a psychological transformation his desire to stay home is not a symptom of mental decline it is the ultimate expression of emotional mastery,today we are going to deconstruct,the psychology of the sovereign homebody,we will dissect the undeniable reasons why senior men live staying home ,and why this voluntary solitude is the purest form of freedom let us uncover the truth.

1. Voluntary solitude is the sign of emotional wholeness not depression. 

2. When a man is young ,he often uses the world as a distraction.he works 80 hours a week,attends every social gathering and constantly seek new experiences because he is terrifying of Branford alone with his own thoughts,he is running from his insecurities, his unheaded traumas and his own internal voices. But the senior man could sit completely alone in a quiet room for hours on end without feeling a single ounce of anxiety that is a man who has reached a pinnacle of emotional completion, he has done the brutal silent work of introspection he has confronted his past he had looked at his failures and triumphs he has finally forgiven himself for his imperfections , he no longer escape his own mind because his mind is no longer a battlefield when society looks at a man sitting quietly in his house they assume he is depressed because they would be depressed if they were forced to sit with their own unresolved thoughts.They are projecting their own fear of silence onto him ,the older man stays at home simply because he is finally at peace with the man in the mirror .

2. He is withdrawing from the noise not from life there is a severe difference between retreating from existence and retreating from superficiality throughout his life a man is forced to attend thousands of events he does not care about he attends corporate dinners ,Mandatory family gatherings with toxic relatives.and social functions,built entirely on fake pleasantries .by the time a man reaches age sixty his tolerance for trivial completely evaporates in Psychology this is known as shift socio emotional selectivity as men recognise that their time is limited they refuse to spend their remaining energy on shallow interactions he is not isolating himself from humanity he is retiring from the exhausting performance of societal small talk he realises that spending an evening answering mundane questions about the weather or listening to other people’s manufactured drama it is catastrophic waste of his life force , he stays home because he has discovered that honest silence is infinitely more fulfilling than fake conversation he protects his environment because he would rather experience the deep authentic peace of his living room than the exhausting theater of the outside world .

3.Absolute independence and liberation from societal roles ,from the moment a man enters the workforce he is stripped of his individuality and assigned a series of utilitarian roles he is the employee who must produce he is the provider who must pay the mortgage he is the fixer who must solve everyone’s problems he is the stoic husband and father who must never show weakness for 40 years every time he steps out his front doors , he must put on this heavy suffocating armour to survive in the world but his home his home is the only place on the earth where the armpit comes off when the senior man retires and his children are grown the societal contracts expire when he stays inside his house he does not have to perform he does not have to prove his strength he does not have to prove his success his wealth or his utility to anyone he can simply be returns to his most authentic primal self the older man lives staying home because it is the only geographical location where he is allowed to exist as a human being rather n a human doing he rejects the outside world because the outside world is continuously demands that he play a role inside his home he is finally unapologetically just himself .

4. The home provides a sacred space for deep reflection and spiritual grounding as a man enters his later years the biological drive for external  expansion shifts to a profound desire for internal exploration Carl Jung referred to this as final stage of individualisation , it is the existential phase of life the hustle of the outside world the traffic the consumerism the endless pursuit of money is designed to keep us distracted from the ultimate questions of existence the quiet  environmental of the home allows the senior man to finally pause and meditate on his journey in this secret silence he evaluates his achievements and his failures without the judgment of the society he begins to answer the grand terrifying question that young man run from .

Who am I really beneath my titles what actually matters in my life what legacy I am leaving behind this level of deep introspection requires an environment completely devoid for distraction the older man stays home because his house has become monastery for his mind he is making peace with the universe preparing his soul for the final chapters of his journey and he requires absolute stillness to do so.

5. The renaissance of pure unadulterated creativity society looks at a senior man tinkering in his garage or attending to his garden and dismissively assumes he is just killing time.They view his hobbies as a desperate attempt to stave off boredom they could not be more wrong during his working years a man’s creative energy is routinely hijacked by his employer his mental resources are spent solving problems for other people but within the walls of his home ,he reclaims his creative sovereignty reading writing woodworking painting or gardening are not just ways to pass the hours they are dynamic moving meditations they are the tools he uses to organise his thoughts and manifest his inner peace into the physical world he creates not for profit not for praise and not for social validation he creates purely for the Joy of creation itself his home is his laboratory his studio and his canvas he loves staying home because it is the only place where his imagination is entirely his own 

6. Absolute control and the enforcement of the unbreakable boundaries when you step out into the world you surrender control of your environment you are forced to deal with erratic drivers rude individuals unpredictable crowds and chaotic environment you are a subject to the whims of the society but a man’s home is in his sovereign territory it is the one geographical location on earth where he possesses absolute dictatorial control over who enters his life and what consumes his energy the senior man fiercely protects this space he controls the temperature he controls the environment but most importantly he controls the energetic environment if a person brings drama entitlement or negativity they are simply not granted access he lives staying home.because it guarantees that his nerves system remains perfectly regulated his house is a fortress that protects his most valuable asset his peace of mind 

7. The mastery of the difference between loneliness and solitude this is the ultimate misunderstanding of the modern world society believes that being physically alone automatically equals to be lonely but the senior man knows that loneliness is absolutely nothing to be proximity to others loneliness is the painful desperate feeling of being surrounded by people who do not see hear or understand it is state of emotional starvation but solitude?solitude is a confident deliberate choice it is the joy of peacefully sitting with yourself the older man stays at home because he has mastered his own company he realises that an empty room is not a void it is a sanctuary filled with his own peaceful presence he has conquered the fear of silence rendering him completely immune to the desperate need for external distraction it is time for society and we’ll meaning families 

Dharavahik upanyas Bhoot-Adbhut! (106)

The taxi crossed many roads and red lights, in ten years Samantha found many changes, the shops and the markets were shining brightly. The people walking on the roads were looking smart and rich. She thought , “ Just because I am back here after ten long years and that too from a village, I am feeling the big difference. “ The driver stopped the taxi , she saw they have reached Nursing home. She got down and took out her luggage, she paid the money to the driver, she had exchanged the ropes into Pounds at the airport. She saw the Ebro at the ground floor. She went in and introduced herself. The receptionist welcomed her formally. She took her inside, her father was at the ground floor. She asked Samantha to put the luggage there only, she can’t take the luggage inside.Samantha put the luggage down, She wanted to meet her father. The receptionist took her to a dormitory, there were five cots there. Her father’s was the last one. Receptionist said , “ he is your father” Samantha reached there she saw a lean and thin man was laying on the bed. In her imagination her father was a smart tall and healthy man but after ten years she couldn’t recognise him. She sat on the stool kept near the cot. Receptionist put finger on lip and asked Samantha to keep silent because the patient is sleeping. Receptionist asked Samantha to come out with her. Samantha followed her. ———— Continued————

Dharm & Darshan!! Vithhal Rakhumai !! ( Marathi)

 *रखुमाई रूसली कोपऱ्यात बसली चला जाऊ तिला पुसायला*

"उद्या तुम्ही कुठे म्हणजे कुठे जाणार नाही.. नेहमी तुम्ही दुसर्‍यांची सेवा घेता.. उद्याचा दिवस माझा.. कळले ना?" *रुक्मिणीने* ठणकावून विठ्ठलाला सांगितले..

" हो ग.. मी का तुझ्या शब्दाबाहेर आहे.. तू म्हणशील तसे.." *विठूरायाने* मान डोलावली..

रामप्रहरी विठुरायाच्या कानी आवाज आला.. *दळिता कांडिता तुज गाईन अनंता*..' त्याने डोळे उघडले.. शेजारी रखुमाई झोपली होती.. तो तसाच उठला आणि निघाला त्याच्या जनीकडे.. तिचे दळण दळून येईपर्यंत इथे रखुमाईने गरम पाणी काढून ठेवले होते..

 *आलात दळण दळून.. बसा अंग चोळून देते*.. स्नान झाल्यावर खायला देते तोवर तरी थांबा.." विठुरायाने परत होकार भरला..

 *मागणे हेचि माझे देवा, दुजेपणा दुरी ठेवा, मी तू ऐसी नको उरी, जनार्दनकृपा करी*.." रखुमाई आत गेली आहे तोवर याने लगेच *श्रीखंड्याचे रूप घेऊन नाथांच्या घरची वाट धरली.. तिथे पाणी भरून होईतो. *नको देवराया अंत आता पाहू, प्राण हा सर्वथा जावो पाहे*..

" ती आर्त हाक ऐकून त्याचे पाय वळले कान्होपात्रेकडे.. तिला दिलासा देऊन घाबरत विठुराया आले घरी.. समोर रखुमाई थालीपीठ आणि त्यावर लोण्याचा गोळा घेऊन उभीच होती.. 

" आता हे तरी शांतपणे खाणार कि अजून कुठे जायची घाई आहे?"

" मी कुठे जाणार तुला सोडून? बाकी थालीपीठ उत्तम झाले आहे ग.."

" हो ना.. मग आता दुपारी काय खाणार ते सांगा.."

" दुपारी भाजी भाकरी कर छान.. मी तर म्हणतो तो सावता कधीचा बोलावतो आहे तर एकदा त्याच्या मळ्यात जाऊन येऊ दोघे.."

" मी नाही येत. जा तुम्हीच.." चिडून रखुमाई बोलली.. पडत्या फळाची आज्ञा घेऊन विठुराया निघाला.. *कांदा मुळा भाजी.. अवघी विठाई माझी*.." सावताच्या मळ्यातील थोडी ताजी भाजी रखुमाईचा राग कमी व्हावा म्हणून घेतली.. तोच एका बाळाच्या रडण्याचा आवाज आला..

*केशवाचे ध्यान धरूनी अंतरी मृत्तिके माझारी नाचतसे* " *असे म्हणत बाळाला तुडवणारा गोरा कुंभार दिसला*.. त्या बाळाला वाचवून त्याला त्याच्या हवाली करण्याच्या गोंधळात भाजी कुठेतरी राहून गेली.. तसेच मातीने भरलेले कपडे घेऊन तो पंढरपुरी परतला.. पण आज रखुमाईने भांडायचे नाही असे ठरवले होते ना.. "कपडे बदलून या.. तोपर्यंत भाकर्‍या करायला घेते.." तिने गरम भाकर्‍या करायला घेतल्या.. पण त्या काही त्याच्या घशाखाली उतरेना. *तुपाची वाटी आणि नेवैद्य घेऊन उभा असलेला नामदेव सतत त्याच्या डोळ्यासमोर येऊ लागला*.

. आपण नेवैद्य ग्रहण करेपर्यंत तो काही खाणार नाही.. हा विचार पिछा सोडेना.. रखुमाईला भाकरी वाढ सांगून विठुराया आला नामदेवांनी.. तो म्हणतच होता "*तरी वेणुनादी जेवण करा गोडु*.." त्याच्या नेवैद्याचा घास घेऊन निघाला तर 

*देहूला उन्हात "वृक्षवल्ली आम्हा सोयरी वनचरी" असे गात असलेला तुकाराम दिसला*.. त्याच्या डोक्यावर सावली धरली.. आणि शेवटी घरी परतला..

" थकला असाल.. जरा दम घ्या." असे रखुमाईने सांगितले.. तिच्याकडे कृतज्ञतापूर्वक पाहून तो जरा कलंडला.. संध्याकाळी उठला.. "चल आपण दोघे सारीपाट खेळू.." त्याने रखुमाईला सांगितले..

"बघा हां, आपण खेळायला बसू.. आणि परत तुम्हाला काहीतरी आठवेल.. मग मात्र मी चिडून इथून निघून जाईन.." त्या पेक्षा आपण या सर्व तुमच्या भक्त मंडळीच्या मांदीयाळी पासून कुठे तरी दूर जाऊ,

*पंढरीनाथा झडाकरी आता, पंढरी सोडून चला विनविते रखुमाई विठ्ठला* 

तेव्हा विठ्ठल म्हणाले आता असे 

" नाही असे होणार.." त्याने हसून तिची खात्री पटवली.. त्याच्या मोहक हास्याच्या जाळ्यात तीही अडकली..

खेळ रंगात आला.. आणि *विश्वाचे आर्त माझ्यामनी प्रकटले.." अशी साद आली.. त्या चार भावंडांकडे कसे दुर्लक्ष करणार*.. डाव अर्धवट सोडून तो निघाला.. त्यांच्या पाठीवरून मायेचा हात फिरवायला.. त्या चार भावंडांना भेटून विठुराया आला खरा.. पण तोवर त्याची रखुमाई चिडून खरेच निघून गेली होती.. हि गोष्ट सर्व संतांना समजली. सर्वांनी येऊन तिची मनधरणी केली.. "*तुझ्याविना वैकुंठाचा कारभार चालना.. एकल्या विठुरायाला संसार पेलेवेना**.. असे म्हणून सर्व संत मंडळी रखुमाई कडे गेली, पण ती हि एवढी हट्टी.. ती ऐकेचना.. शेवटी ती त्याच्यापासून वेगळी झालीच.. 

*रखुमाई रुसली कोपऱ्यात बसली चला जाऊ तिला पुसायला*

आता गेली अठ्ठावीस युगे तो विठुराया तिची विनवणी करतो आहे.. *येग येग रखुमाई, सावलीच्या पावलांनी विठूच्या गाभारी*.."   *रामकृष्ण हरी पांडुरंग हरी* 

Dharm & Darshan : Bhagvat Geeta !!

 With the intention of killing Lord Krishna and Balarama, Jarasandha attacked Mathura seventeen times.

However, on every occasion, Lord Krishna completely destroyed Jarasandha's army but deliberately spared Jarasandha's life.

Each time he returned defeated, Jarasandha would travel across the land, meet the kings who were hostile to Krishna, and unite them for another war against Him.

One day, unable to understand this, Balarama asked Lord Krishna:

"Why do you spare Jarasandha's life every single time?"

Smiling, Lord Krishna replied:

"There is a clear purpose behind letting Jarasandha live. He himself gathers together all the unrighteous and hostile kings from across the world and brings them before us. This enables us to destroy all those evil rulers in one place. If we were to kill Jarasandha now, we would instead have to travel to every corner of the world to search for each of those unrighteous enemies and eliminate them one by one."

"Whenever righteousness declines and unrighteousness rises, I manifest Myself."

— Bhagavad Gita 4.7

Dharavahik upanyas Bhoot-Adbhut!(105)

In India we mostly did have combined families where old grandparents were taken care by children and children used to do all duties about earning money and bear the expanses. Grand Parents had to supervise only everything. Grand children were taken care by Grand parents and this thing built a value based Personality.In UK Children brought up making them independent or very little children by Nannies if Parents are working so the development at both the palaces were different. In UK old people were and are taken care by Government in Nursing homes and Now a days the number of Old age homes is increasing in India too and here also Most of Parents are kept there by depositing money by children or in many cases Old people if they have money they themselves go and enroll their names there because if children are doing jobs in foreign countries how would they manage themselves on their own. Samantha’s father was also in the nursing home and she had received a cable about his serious illness and so she decided to to and see her father. ———Continued———-

Dharavahik upanyas Bhoot-Adbhut!(104)

When Samantha reached I.K. After ten years she found no change. She collected her suitcase from the luggage belt and after fulfilling all passport formalities came out. She hired a taxi, the taxi fair was too much she immediately calculated and compared with the rupee, but no way to avoid it. She asked the driver to take her to the nursing home. The life style of British people and Indians was totally different. Here right from the beginning children were brought up like independent personalities, from hospitals they can’t be taken home in lap instead in a seat attached in car seat specially for babies tied with seat belt. At home baby can’t sleep near mom but in his independent cot, if you are going for a walk, you can tie baby at your stomach with baby’s face looking front. Up to five years you need to take baby in buggy with belt. And very soon child start day out or play date in friend’s home, and then sleep over also at friend’s house. All these things make him independent and not like Indian children who all the time hold their Mom’s “ Pallu” the corner part of her saree. All these things effect the social system differently to both the countries.———— Continued———-