Today's Tip !!
One most important thing is also becomes the reason of a successful marriage or an unsuccessful marriage, that is the third part of it except husband and wife. This may be husband's relatives or wife's relatives. Minor problems can be sorted out between husband and wife by both of them only, and it is quite normal , because , two persons , who have lived about 25 years in other family background and different life styles, different economic and social status, when come together it is a bit tough to understand each other's choices, nature, likes and dislikes, merits and demerits, but gradually they understand each other and accept each other with little bit demerits, which could not be corrected by all means, and no one is perfect in this world. But if it's a combined family ( It's obviously very rare these days ) then it is very difficult to adjust, because in a combined family, there are parents , sisters, brothers etc exist ,and they were living with their own style, now the newly wedded daughter in law, doesn't find any space for her, means , her choices, her hobbies, her style of cooking her way of living never given weightage, she gradually starts feeling ignored or overlooked, and feels herself quite away from them. It is completely like a big plant , uprooted from one place and planted to different place, it would need more care , at this new place while it doesn't get it. And if there are difference of opinions among them, husband always supports his family members, even if they are right or wrong in such situations, the things get very tough and it is not possible for her to adjust always. In such routine,she starts losing her confidence, if she has son or daughter and they are also given second grade comparative to sisters ' children, they will also lose their confidence and this must not done to children, because childhood such bad experiences affect a lot to their delicate soft feelings, and innocent heart. Both the husband and wife must be aware of such happenings and quickly stay away from the place, if husband is very much emotionally attached to his own family members the daughter in law must leave the place immediately, because her child must not go through the bitter experience she is already going through. The second part of this story is when the daughter in law's family members interfere in their daughter's life. This also affects husband and wife's personal life. There was a time when combined families existed, because all things were combined , such as farming or shop, those days it was necessary to listen to father in law in business and mother in law in home , their decisions were final and no arguments were allowed, but now a days, sons and daughter in laws both earn equally and mostly they make their families away from their parents family. It is very good and peaceful for all . When they need parents support them and when parents need they support their parents. Parents also feel free when their sons or daughters are independent and get married and make their own family, and parents need to enjoy their old age by visiting different places and meet their relatives.
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